Healing

link: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201209/shaming-children-is-emotionally-abusive

1.Adult children raised by narcissistic parents frequently tell similar childhood stories of shame and humiliation. 

2.“ Wherever I look, I see signs of the commandment to honor one’s parents and nowhere of a commandment that calls for the respect of a child.”

3.Children respect those who respect them. 

4.Often these shaming acts take place in front of other people. Treating children badly and without respect is not the golden rule for parenting, but why do we see this so often?

5.When the family gets together, he loudly announces the wrong doings of his children, with no insight to the damage it does. The children stand listening with eyes cast downward. Is it any wonder that young people in these situations grow into adults with self-doubt, depression and anxiety?

6.It is an expectation that the parent will provide safety, protection, acceptance,understanding and empathy. 

7.When children are emotionally or psychologically abused, they grow up feeling unloved, unwanted, and fearful. Normal development is interrupted and it sends the wounded child into exile. 

8.When we talk about disrespectful children, we must look at parenting

9.Solid parenting shows children respect and empathy. When a parent truly gives respect to a child, they receive it back. 

10.Make the commitment to never shame a child. Treat children like you want to be treated.