Conscious Parenting, the conscious muslim child-parent and judging parenting choices

Sunday Morning Tadabbur

Topic: Conscious Parenting, the conscious muslim child-parent and judging/criticizing parenting choices

It seems very amazing to me how parenting is in fact, indeed, a conscious decision.

Sepertimana pilihan untuk menjadi muslim ialah satu proses pemilihan dan membuat keputusan setiap masa dan pada setiap perbuatan, perkataan, mimik muka, makanan yang di makan, pakaian yang di pakai, etc etc, rupanya parenting juga termasuk dalam nya sebagai pilihan "saya adalah ibu muslim".

It is never "i do this or I'm doing this because my parents did this" BUT it is always "i do this or I'm doing this because i know it is good by islamic teaching" and this includes or excludes what was done by our parents before us.

It is never "i do this or I'm practicing this because i turned out fine or healthy or clever or whatever" but "i will follow what is good because i have done enough observation and research and it is proven to be good by my Deen-guided research/observation/experiment"

And please notice that the above statement can lead to a plethora of one act or thing to be seen from different views and in fact leading to different results - both negative and positive. Because this world is full of variations and diversity.

Shouldn't we, as muslims, be very sensitive to the fact that something should be "viewed" or "criticized" according to individual case or at least specific case and not -or if i may say never very often -spoken of through generalizations because the nature of "generalizing" often does not apply for every single individual ?

And most importantly, it seems to me that "delaying judgement" or "delaying critique" is a behavior very central to the Prophet's personality and islamic teaching. As well as not overly examining details which are not central to the issue at hand.

What has all this to do with parenting in islam?

Instead of explaining it all, i do not wish for you to comment on what you think the relation is, but i would love for you to just reflect about its relation.

Hint: parenting and making judgements of people's parenting styles or what is overt of a couple's parenting

Wallahua'lam