Tidak muslimah / solehah kerana tidak berpoligami

 Repost from Ustazah Noraslina Jusin (from facebook)

 

Pada saya neraca untuk menentukan solehah atau tidak seorang wanita bukan dilihat pada dia berpoligami atau tidak. Ia juga bukan bukti amal yang menjadi kayu ukur muslimah atau tidak seorang wanita itu. 

Piawaiannya adalah pada ketaatan kepada ALLAH dan Rasul-NYA, juga ketaatan kepada suami dengan menjadikan sifat malu sebagai benteng ...utama, sebagaimana sabda Rasulullah SAW yang bermaksud :

"Apabila seorang perempuan mendirikan sembahyang lima waktu, berpuasa sebulan (Ramadhan), menjaga kehormatan dan taat kepada suami, dia akan disuruh memasuki syurga melalui mana-mana pintu yang dia sukai." ( Hadis Riwayat Ahmad )

Juga sabda Baginda yang bermaksud:

"Sesungguhnya sopan santun dan keimanan adalah saling berkaitan, jika salah satunya dikeluarkan, yang satu lagi juga akan hilang serentak." (Hadis Riwayat Baihaqi)

Inilah piawaian yang dapat menentukan solehah atau tidak seseorang wanita itu. Baik dia berpoligami atau tidak, keempat-empat syarat yang dinyatakan oleh Nabi terpakai kepada semua Muslimah untuk bergelar wanita solehah.

Poligami adalah satu ujian dari ujian-ujian ALLAH ke atas hamba-hambaNYA, untuk menguji keimanan, meningkat ketaqwaan seterusnya meraih ganjaran yang berlipat kali ganda di sisi ALLAH Yang Maha Kaya.

Bersyukurlah ke atas mereka yang berjaya melaluinya dan berwaspadalah sentiasa dari tipu daya nafsu dan syaitan durjana. Satu cubaan berjaya dilalui, banyak lagi yang menanti untuk menguji. Justeru, jangan pernah merasa mulia hanya kerana telah berjaya melalui 'ujian' poligami hingga memandang rendah pada wanita yang masih bermujahadah.

Usah terlalu mudah melabel wanita yang tidak mengizinkan suaminya untuk berkahwin lagi sebagai mengikut nafsu dan emosi. Apatah lagi mengancamnya sebagai TIDAK MUSLIMAH.

Semoga kita semua bertaqwa.

Dari semua wanita yang pernah wujud di dunia ini, hanya empat yang menjadi pilihan sebagai seutama-utama wanita di sisi ALLAH. Mereka ialah Sayyidatina Khadijah, Fatimah bint Rasulillah, Maryam dan Asiah.

Sewajarnya mereka dijadikan teladan sepanjang zaman.

Kepada ALLAH SWT selayaknya kita berserah.

5 Hormones Birthing Moms should know about (Edited)

(This excerpt is edited)

...In her book,Gentle birth, gentle mothering, internationally acclaimed birth expert Dr Sarah J. Buckley explains how epidurals or painkilling drugs and synthetic hormones (used during induction) interfere with some of the major hormones of labour and birth. The five major hormones:

1.oxytocin (hormones of love);
-this hormone is also secreted during sexual intercourse, also secreted when the uterus contracts. When we are 'induced", we are induced with ARTIFICIAL oxytocin and the way our body releases oxytocin is DIFFERENT compared to how artificial oxytocin called pitocin is 'released' into our body.Hence the reason people sometimes say being induced or augmented is 'harder' than natural sensations because the 'dosage' is different.

2.beta-endorphin (pleasure and transcendence);
-Allah has designed the female body 'hardware' in such a way that when oxytocin is released and starts the contractions, endorphins are released to help the mother cope. But the mother NEEDS TO BE AWARE OF THIS ('software') and NEEDS TO BALANCE between this NATURAL NARCOTIC with the following hormone:

3.the catecholamines or CAs,
-or in other words, 'stress hormones'. Birthing moms need the right balance between this hormone and the de-stresser hormones (see above) to give birth. She can achieve this by practising relaxation techniques before and during birthing.

4.epinephrine and norepinephrine (excitement); and

5. prolactin (tender mothering)
-This hormone is the reason why laboring before ANY kind of birth is important: to 'prep' the body for breastfeeding. Prolactin & oxytocin: the hormones for breastfeeding too!

This cocktail of hormones is also responsible for keeping the mother feeling fresh, awake and alert after birthing to aid initial breastfeeding, provided she alternated between resting and active birthing during (an especially long) stage 1 (and/or stage 2 and 3). Medical interventions are prone to disturb the release of these hormones (thus affecting the process of labor, breastfeeding, and sometimes even postpartum healing and mothering)

(All these hormones) form a "cocktail of hormones that nature prescribes to aid birthing mothers of all mammalian species"

Excerpt taken from this link:http://thestar.com.my/health/story.asp?file=%2F2010%2F11%2F14%2Fhealth%2F7385426&sec=health

Our days in pictures

Four-five months ago: a trip to the beach (i was about 5-6 months pregnant):




A trip to ikea to add storage solutions to our house, plus a bed for musa




Musa has his own bed!




I think this picture was taken on the monday before Zainab was born. Pizza for lunch because CBTL was out of lasagna (I had a craze for Italian food while preggers with Zainab, then again, I love italian food anyway)





Zainab, was it day 2 or 3?





Zainab, day 5 under phototherapy lights at AZIM bangi. She was discharged the next day.





Taken at hospital besar melaka. Waiting to collect a urine sample. Doctor said "breastmilk jaundice" (which may be the reason for her prolonged jaundice) goes away naturally after 4 weeks.



Did some online shopping for toys and stuff for musa. Seen here: with Baby Khalifah interactive CD set by Islamkids.my





Zainab staring into oblivion, heheheh




What a cute confused look!




Erk, me and my sweet tooth. Second order of macarons from cikmin macaron. To order, find her on fb.




Day 26. Family outing to mahkota parade for cakes, lunch and some shopping.




Who's that? That's musa and his new friend, sawda. They were soo cute, she was asking him 'what's this?' and he was telling her (it's an alphabet book). They're about the same age.




Family moment




Trying out the Baby Khalifah CD with Abi.







Then, puzzle time. This cool big puzzle is available at brainy young caliph's online store. Musa likes it!

Technology & Birthing

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You must yourself take responsibility for your own birth, including the decision to have technology used on you and your baby. Remember, technology is not good or bad. How technology is used can be good or bad. Airplanes can be used to carry you to visit your family or can be used to drop bombs on women and children. How technology is used on you during pregnancy and birth is of great importance because it can help you and your baby or harm you and your baby.

— Marsden Wagner

Excerpted from "Technology and Birth: First Do No Harm," Midwifery Today

Siapa Zainab?

Kalau kita tanya, siapa khadijah, siapa aisyah, siapa fatimah, siapa maryam, siapa asma', ini adalah nama2 yg sangat popular. Tak kurang juga, siapa siti, siapa stacy, dan lain2 nama "tokoh" zaman terkini pula.

Tapi siapa zainab?

Dalam sejarah Islam, ada beberapa orang Zainab:

1)Zainab binti Khuzaimah (Ummul Mukminin, dan juga bekas isteri as-syahid Abdullah Bin Jahsy)

2) Zainab Binti Jahsy (Ummul Mukminin, dan juga Bekas isteri Zaid bin Haritsah)

3) Zainab binti Muhammad bin Abdullah (Anak Rasulullah sendiri, berkahwin dengan Abul 'Ash)

4)Zainab binti Abu Salamah (Anak buah Rasulullah kemudian Anak tiri Rasulullah dari Ummul Mukminin Ummu Salamah)

5)Zainab Al-Ghazali (aktivis da'wah Mesir. 2 January 1917 – 8 August 2005)