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Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Childism: Read 1


Link: http://m.psychologytoday.com/blog/child-in-mind/201201/understanding-childism-are-we-prejudiced-against-children


Disclaimer: i am pro-circumsician for boys, and subscribe to the islamic teaching that homosexuality, bisexuality and transvestites of any kind are haram (forbidden) in islam. 




"The problem of improving access to care is a political one."


Now where have i heard that one before...... Hmmmmmm. Ah yes. Birthing and breastfeeding too. If not most of other problems. No, i am not anti-existing ruling party. I am anti-oppression, be it from ANY "party". And this is not a political post. 


"She would point to childism to explain why the health insurance industry and pharmaceutical industry have together been able to create a system where children are more likely to be medicated than listened to. "


Or merely given "air yasin" or whatever WITHOUT reading about their developmental stage and age. 


I actually think the Goverment should get involved somewhat into paying half of the fees for parents to go to:

1. Spousal communication class

2. Childbirth preparation class

3. Breast feeding class

4. Parenting class


Hmmm oh well. The good things in life are not free. Paradise is expensive. Oh well. Seek knowledge anyway. Where there's a will there is a way. 




Cycle of respect, and boundaries of trusting" children- and Islam





Monday, January 20, 2014

Islamic behaviour of non muslims and the handicap of "sleeping" muslims

السلام عليكم 

Topic: Islam is perfect but the muslim is not 


Disclaimer: I am nobody. These are just my heartfelt thoughts /ranting. 

(Level: 02L)


I am confident in how perfect and conclusive and syumul is islam. 


But i am not confident that muslims have done or is doing everything that is contained in islamic teachings.


Seriously.


Does islam "teach" us to leave our child crying its' lungs out just because we need to "teach the baby" to be on his own because we need to go to work and leave him somewhere where people aren't bothered to cradle small babies? 


I do not beg to differ, i fully insist on differing. 


I am fully confident that islam is not rigid in terms of knowledge and certain types of rules... Like treatment towards a birthing mother. 


At the same time I stand rigidly with islam in terms of core, foundational issues such as in issues pertaining to Tauhid (the oneness of Allah). And other issues as homosexuality. There is no exception to it. EVENTHOUGH it does not pertain that people struggling to overcome their (homosexual) issues should be shunned or treated badly. Because islam is just and full of akhlaq and adab taught to us through the behaviour and actions of the prophet muhammad s.a.w


But the main issue is interpreting islam into our roles as parents, husband, wives, etc....... 


Kalau orang islam tidak peduli dan tidak mahu kaji, lantas bersikap "default settings" , "copy paste", "unconscious" atau pak turut saja dengan gaya parenting, kesihatan/pemakanan, dan lain2 aspek kehidupan mereka sbg manusia, adakah sikap ini YANG DI AJARKAN OLEH ISLAM? Is it ISLAMIC to behave this way? 


And is it ISLAMIC to subjugate and generalize that people are incapable of critical thinking ? 


Is it ISLAMIC to have a "we are superior" mindset just because of so-and-so training we get? Even if it is tarbiyyah islamiy, does islam asks us to generalize all issues with the mindset: "we know better"? 


I really have a problem with my muslim brothers and sisters who simply reject things without carefully inspecting the matter. 


If muslims are subscribing to "islamic concepts" which just happen to be put forward by others but minus: The hadiths, The Qur'anic verses, The tauhid, Etc islamic, therefore it does NO GOOD to blame and criticize these brothers and sisters but it does all the good to put effort into advocacy of a systemized /organized promotion of the original thing: islam is complete and syumul and already has all the answers. But if we don't THINK and SEEK critically ENOUGH and UNEARTH this WEALTH ALREADY BUILT INSIDE THIS Deen,  then we are no better than .. What ahmad deedat described as swines dressed with pearls on their necks! 


Everyone reaps only what they sow. So anyone who uses their observational capacity and thinking capacity is fully capable of unearthing hikmah that Allah has placed in everything. It is the mukmin's own horrible lost if he does not use his talents and gifts to steer is way around this world because EVERYONE muslims and non muslims alike have been given the same gifts! A brain; eyes, senses, thinking capacity, etc! 


Everyone is given the same amount of "tickets" or "tools" to enter jannah. Just because you have a muslim name and muslim parents or went to an islamic school of heck-- have had islamic tarbiyyah, does it guarantee you jannah and nobility and superiority  ?


I may be nobody great but i THOUGHT tarbiyyah meant nothing but to make you realize that you are responsible to promote La ilaha illallah- so it's nothing but AMANAH AND RESPONSIBILITY. NOT SUPERIORITY! Not power!  


I totally AGREE that the non muslims still stand and if not promote what is bathil and ignorance to some extent - but we cannot generalize and name- call /label WITHOUT providing people proper and BETTER substitutes  -- the original completely comprehensive guide : islam the way of life as shown by the prophet muhammad s.a.w


Why is it only now we are (still painstakingly slow to ) promoting the "motivating our children the way of the prophet" - yet we would not validate that Yes! In fact Rasulullah's behavior has taught us all of those the west is struggling to promote and instill- connection parenting, attachment parenting, gentle parenting, etc? 


I fear and in fact am confident that there is only one answer: that we have in fact been horribly, horribly sleeping and unconscious and if i may say un-united from realizing that we have practiced and have been successfully misled by deceit and thus PROMOTED things like:


Cry -it -out method ("sleep training" or baby training)

Childism (for lack of knowledge on mental and physical development of children)

Formula milk

And yes- i will say this! Fully medicated birthing without valid medical reasons! 


Will we, will WE  (i say not YOU or THEY, i say WE) learn to unlearn and relearn? Or will we JUST say "we are experts, we are muslims of tarbiyyah, thus we know better"? Surah HUD: verse 87


قَالُوا يَا شُعَيْبُ أَصَلَاتُكَ تَأْمُرُكَ أَن نَّتْرُكَ مَا يَعْبُدُ آبَاؤُنَا أَوْ أَن نَّفْعَلَ فِي أَمْوَالِنَا مَا نَشَاءُ إِنَّكَ لَأَنتَ الْحَلِيمُ الرَّشِيدُ


They said: "O Shu'aib! Does thy (religion of) prayer command thee that we leave off the worship which our fathers practised, or that we leave off doing what we like with our property? truly, thou art the one that forbeareth with faults and is right-minded!" 


I fully enjoin my muslimah brothers and sisters to learn to unlearn and relearn ONLY what is clearly NOT AGAINST our aqidah and tauhid and exercise their critical thinking and learning capacity. Do everything will full consciousness and taking full responsibility over it instead of putting the "blame" or "responsibility" over someone else's shoulders: meaning sayings things like (as shown in example from the above verse) "my father/mother did it before me, they 

/ i turn out right". 


Having said this, i am also a full believer of this and usually would like to practice this unless otherwise emotionally unstable ;


This has not been a very academic piece of writing and yes i will admit it is half if not mostly influenced by emotions and 5-35% of rationality. I sincerely pray the 35% of rational voice will speak out to you. Ameen. 

Thanks for taking the time to read my ranting. Not claiming it as an academic piece worthy of anything anyway. It is a rant. A heartfelt rant. 



السلام عليكم 

Sunday, January 19, 2014

Semalam dan hari ini

السلام عليكم 

Semalam dan hari ini
Petang dan pagi
Atas dan bawah
Hitam dan putih
Kiri dan kanan

Semalam makan bangkai
Hari ni jadi bangkai

Semalam makan
Hari ni kena makan

Kalau tidak sedar hukum Allah untuk Dunia
Jadi kecewa 
Jadi marah
Jadi sedih
Jadi bengis
Jadi nangis

Saya orang itu

Hukum di Jannah lain
Jannah 
جنه


Sering terlupa 
Sering lemah
Sering lemah 
Untuk mujahadah
Sering berdalih
Sering malas
Sering hanyut
Sering terikut
Makhluk yang memujuk
Makhluk yang menipu

Rasa nak terus hanyut
Rasa nak berhenti mencuba
Berhenti berlari
Tapi

Itu adalah syaitan 
Itu adalah contoh teladan iblis
Bukan adam
Bukan ayahku adam

Oleh itu
Aku bukan biar diriku lemah
Aku bukan biar diriku malas
Aku pekakkan telinga pada hukuman manusia 
Aku hanya tinggal berdua bersama Allah
Aku tidak sempurna
Tapi aku tidak mahu berputus asa
Dan aku mahu menyatakan aku salah
Aku rasa lega aku masih baik
Aku bukan riyak
Aku masih berharap dengan Allah
Dan itu penting
Untuk orang-orang seperti aku
Nafsu lawwamah

Aku gembira
Walaupun tetap takut dan cemas