These tips came from a video I saw at this link and after watching it I think it applies to both spouses, though some tips apply to wives more (since it is meant for wives anyway)
The best thing about these tips, that most of them have references from the Qur'an or Sunnah.
* Tips from Qur’an and Sunnah to love your spouse 41/60
1. Make her feel secure (without intimidating her with divorce)
2. Give salam to her when entering the house
3. Wife=fragile vessel. Lots of goodness, treat very gently!
4. When giving advice, advice in privacy, at the best time (loving & romantic)
5. being generous with her = direct business with allah!
6. give your seat for her
7. avoid anger, keep wudhu’
8. look good, smell great
9. don’t be rigid = men think being rigid is “macho”
10. be a good listener for her. They don't want solutions, they just want to be heard!*
11. yes for flattering, no for arguing
12. call your wife with the best names she likes to hear!
13. a pleasant surprise…a gift
14. preserving the tongue is serious business
15. expect and accept her shortcomings
16. tell her about the things you like about what she did (appreciation)
17. be kind to her mom and dad and encourage her to keep good relationship with her relatives
18. speak on topics SHE is interested in!
19. in front of her relatives; speak of her good
20. give her a gift, there’ll be love
21. getting rid of the routine once in a while
22. think good of her (husnu zhon)
23. little things you don’t like = pretend you didn’t hear or see
24. a drop of patience everyday. Increase it when she is pregnant or having her period
25. expect and respect her jealousy
26. be humble
27. make your friends happy = but don’t sacrifice her for it
28. do house chores, even Rasulullah sew on his own
29. don’t force her to love your mom and dad, it will come gradually. Help her to respect them.
30. tell her she is your ideal wife…
31. make do’a for her
32. leave the past alone!
33. don’t try to show her that you’re doing her a favor by working
34. your enemy is syaitan, not your wife
35. put food into her mouth…
36. wife = precious pearl. Protect her from syaitan jin and syaitan human.
37. show her your smile.
38. small spark/stones will add up to become big: deal with it, don’t ignore it.
39. avoid being hard/harsh-hearted. Rasulullah was not hard/harsh-hearted.
40. respect and show you appreciate her thinking, suggestions, thoughts
41. help her find her successes/skills.
The tip marked * corresponds with a tip made by relationship guru John Gray.
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