Continuation: 60 Islamic Ways to make your wife love you

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42.respecting the intimate r/ship and the boundaries.
43.help her take care of the children.
44.the gift of the tongue; say something nice about her.
45.have meals with her.
46.let her know that you're travelling and coming home
47.don't leave home during a quarrel
48.don't tell people private matters
49.encourage each other with ibadah
50.engrave her rights into your heart
51.treat them with kindness/goodness in good and bad times
52.send the messenger before intimacy
53.don't disclose disputes with outsiders, even close ones unless wise and knowledgeable in Islam
54.her good health is your good health, show her you care for her health
55.'I am always right' is a sickness.
56.share your happiness and your sadness with her!
57.have mercy on her when she is weak
58.be her shoudler to cry on
59.accept her as she is
60.have a good niyyah for her

60 Islamic Ways to make your wife love you

These tips came from a video I saw at this link and after watching it I think it applies to both spouses, though some tips apply to wives more (since it is meant for wives anyway)


The best thing about these tips, that most of them have references from the Qur'an or Sunnah.


    * Tips from Qur’an and Sunnah to love your spouse 41/60

   1. Make her feel secure (without intimidating her with divorce)
   2. Give salam to her when entering the house
   3. Wife=fragile vessel. Lots of goodness, treat very gently!
   4. When giving advice, advice in privacy, at the best time (loving & romantic)
   5. being generous with her = direct business with allah!
   6. give your seat for her
   7. avoid anger, keep wudhu’
   8. look good, smell great
   9. don’t be rigid = men think being rigid is “macho”
  10. be a good listener for her. They don't want solutions, they just want to be heard!*
  11. yes for flattering, no for arguing
  12. call your wife with the best names she likes to hear!
  13. a pleasant surprise…a gift
  14. preserving the tongue is serious business
  15. expect and accept her shortcomings
  16. tell her about the things you like about what she did (appreciation)
  17. be kind to her mom and dad and encourage her to keep good relationship with her relatives
  18. speak on topics SHE is interested in!
  19. in front of her relatives; speak of her good
  20. give her a gift, there’ll be love
  21. getting rid of the routine once in a while
  22. think good of her (husnu zhon)
  23. little things you don’t like = pretend you didn’t hear or see
  24. a drop of patience everyday. Increase it when she is pregnant or having her period
  25. expect and respect her jealousy
  26. be humble
  27. make your friends happy = but don’t sacrifice her for it
  28. do house chores, even Rasulullah sew on his own
  29. don’t force her to love your mom and dad, it will come gradually. Help her to respect them.
  30. tell her she is your ideal wife…
  31. make do’a for her
  32. leave the past alone!
  33. don’t try to show her that you’re doing her a favor by working
  34. your enemy is syaitan, not your wife
  35. put food into her mouth…
  36. wife = precious pearl. Protect her from syaitan jin and syaitan human.
  37. show her your smile.
  38. small spark/stones will add up to become big: deal with it, don’t ignore it.
  39. avoid being hard/harsh-hearted. Rasulullah was not hard/harsh-hearted.
  40. respect and show you appreciate her thinking, suggestions, thoughts
  41. help her find her successes/skills.


The tip marked * corresponds with a tip made by relationship guru John Gray.